The Psychological Effects of Online Negativity

It’s no surprise that to many people ‘social media’ often feels a bit of a misnomer with some of the most anti-social sentiments one can think of being expressed online. When one considers the psychological effects of such online negativity, it is important to acknowledge its impact on both the writer and the reader. “Nice parking you f**king...

What Is a Double Bind Question?

A double bind is a type of question which results in the same answer regardless of which way it is answered. It is a communication technique often used for persuasion (e.g. in the context of business sales) as well as suggestion (e.g. when being used by a hypnotherapist to help ‘change’ a client’s mind). It can also be used coercively to negatively...

The Curious Magic of Handwriting and The Mind

With the use of technology in the modern world, longhand handwriting is decreasing in daily usage for many people.  However, with this trend, we risk losing a number of powerful benefits that come from applying handwriting to certain tasks. My Personal Perspective I’m writing this article as someone who works with the human mind and has first-hand clinical experience of the...

How to Deal with Liars and Bulls***ters

When teaching communication skills, I’m often asked is how to spot a liar or how to use particular questions to expose when deception is being used. As I explain in my training, spotting a liar is fairly straightforward if you follow the right approach. However, dealing with a bulls***ter can be more difficult. The philosopher Harry...

How to Communicate More Persuasively

A popular type of skills training many clients ask me for is to help them learn the art of persuasive communication. With a recent 1-2-1 client, even from our first conversations it quickly became apparent that this individual’s focus had previously been more on the things they thought they need to say to be persuasive, i.e. looking for the specific words or ‘language patterns’ they believed would...

The Difference Between Truth and Opinion

Language and its ability to influence our thoughts, feelings and behaviours forms an important aspect of my work. One place it can be very important is in helping to explain and understand the difference between truth and opinion, and the value of this to human communication. Now, I’m not up for some heavyweight debate about...

Spring Clean!

I’ve just launched the updated Unlocking Change website with new packages and a spring clean of my blog and social media content. I’m committed to only posting things that I believe will genuinely inform and/or entertain. There will be no ’10 Obvious Things To Fill Out My Blog’ posts, no cringeworthy motivational quote images, just...